Forrest Through The Trees
Do you ever think we miss the big picture by focusing on details like sex, pats on butts, kiss on cheek, etc... It seems like a hard dance. You can't verify your notion that something is missing without giving it a solid metric, but once you do is becomes just that... A metric. It seems we need this metric to prove to ourselves that our feeling about the situation is correct... And we try and use the metric to prove to our spouse how out of tolerance they are... When in fact there is no hard requirement for the metric, it is just the feeling. It either works or it doesn't. So why do we not trust our feeling?