The Only Touch I GetI am not okay with him giving me that one-arm heavy-armed hug as I am literally falling asleep. That's the only time he touches me - ever. I mean -- what's up with that? Am I supposed to roll over and please him? That's where that hug leads and only where it leads (this I am certain after 13 years together!!). He has been doing it every night now. He literally lays his heavy arm on my stomach and it literally feels like an anchor. I don't feel "love" in it -- I don't feel "desire" in it. He doesn't face me, caress, whisper, kiss.. just lays that arm on me cutting off my oxygen supply.
Last night I told him I am not okay with this hug anymore.. I told him he always does it RIGHT as I am literally falling asleep (he is on his iPad the half hour before I fall asleep mind you, playing some juvenile game), and I told him it's the ONLY touch I get and it doesn't make me happy or do anything for me. I can be a very blunt person and I have been in our marriage. It didn't phase him... he fell asleep with his arm on my stomach.
I mean, what is up with that?? Is that normal??? To be told something like that and fall asleep??