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So the hubby has been going to therapy. One of the things the therapist wanted to see was his personality profile. He gave him a couple sites to take a test The following is one:

There is also one called Myers Briggs.

Anyway, I was interested and took it too. Turns out I am what is known as an ISFJ which stands for Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, and Judging. The H is ENTP which is Extrovert, Intuitive,Thinking, and Perceptive. COMPLETE OPPOSITES!!!!

A thought hit me. Don't know if I'm right, but I wonder if the refused spouses tend to be more sensing and feeling while the refusers tend to be intuitive and thinking. Of course I could be wrong since he wasn't a refuser until the last few years.

If anyone is interested and can get the spouse to do it also, let me know. Just wondering.
pamelamc pamelamc 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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I don't think Myers-Briggs tells you a lot about behaviors around sex per se. I'm an ENTP and I've been refused by my husband who's probably an ISTP. I've connected with a lot of ENTPers online and met them in person. They like me were fairly open about sex, and kinkier than me. I actually hit it off with men who are my opposite. It's more about how a person relates to another person.

The more useful part of a personality test is no so much about compatability, but rather understanding. The Intuitive/Thinking/Perceptive should be an indicator that he is aware of the impact his actions are having. THese types of tests are ment to give us insight into why a persone does what they do so we can understand why they behave the way they do and not want to knock their block of. The only real difference I see is that he is an extrovert, and you are not. One that you may find a bit more insightful is the "True Colours" test.
I am familiar with both types, and the true colours is a bit more down to earth. But don't use it as a matchmaker...because two people with similar personalities may very well drive each other nuts. !
If he truly is Intuitive/Thinking/Perceptive, then it proves what I have said all along. Refusers are narscistic and self absorbed....and I would guess a fair bunch of them are the only child in their family....mine was.

Thanks, I will check out the True Colours test.

Actually, he has a sister. I was the only child.

So much for my Hypothesis ! :)

Sex is always a challenge as to who wants it most, or moist. Growing old and drying up is not a bunch of fun

<p>My view of personality tests is similar to the thing about project plans. The planning is everything and the plan nothing.</p><p>What I think is significant in relationships is the conjunction of types and developing awareness and acuity about our own patterns and how they interact with our spouses. And also being aware of flexibility or situational ex<x>pressions of those patterns (they are not fixed in a sense). Also, the value of some of the traits, in particular circumstances. Problems often happen when the response is extreme or inflexible.</p><p>Often, being able to pick what is happening allows for somewhat more flexibility in response, and that's where I think the value is.</p>

I wouldn't read too much into "personality" tests. Lots of mumbo-jumbo, IMO. Limited usefulness.

Hmmmm... I was an ESFJ.
Here is the last paragraph of their description of me (my type Guardian Provider):

Providers are extremely sensitive to the feelings of others, which makes them perhaps the most sympathetic of all the types, but which also leaves them somewhat self-conscious, that is, highly sensitive to what others think of them. Loving and affectionate themselves, they need to be loved in return. In fact, Providers can be crushed by personal criticism, and are happiest when given ample appreciation both for themselves personally and for the tireless service they give to others.

Interesting, to say the least. Thanks for sharing...

I tend to kind of doubt that the Myers Briggs would identify who may or may not have a tendency to be a refuser. It's an interesting theory, nonetheless. I just think there's a lot more to what causes one to be a refuser than what a standardized personality test would be able to identify.

Of course he is Extrovert Intuitive and Thinking. To others he probably seems perfect, he is Intutive of the choice and thoughts he makes on how to keep you sexless and under hsi power play.

Reads like complete Narcissict to me.

Stay Strong & Good Luck