Weird UpdateThis is a very strange story.
Towards the end of the summer I realized that my marriage was over. My wife had no interest in sex. She was demeaning. I checked here and with others whether her behavior meant that she didn't love me. Everyone confirmed.
I had the talk with her. I thought it was going to resolve in a divorce. She needed time to think about it. Then she began to change. She got more gentle. She initiated sex. I thought that this was going to be a final attempt to keep the marriage together.
But it kept going. And kept going. It has been going on for two months now. It is truly strange. At first I didn't react since I thought she was going to go back to her usual ways within a week or soon after. But she has kept it up. She is nice. She is polite. She hasn't been angry or mean. I have been enjoying it, of course. At this point I doubt it is an act because I know she can't keep it up for this long. I know because whenever she has felt romantically/sexually threaten by some friend whom she knows is attracted to me, she acts a little better. But this only lasted a few hours. A day, max.
The only explanation that I have is physical. I had said before that she had been sick with a collection of strange and nameless ailments as the result of taking care of sick kids. It seems that about two months ago she got a lot better. From being an angry, sad person who told me that her life was over, she is now smiling all the time, has picked up fiction writing and realistic drawing.
I wish I could say that I had some role in this. That my attention to her made her understand. That telling her that I wanted to see other people if she was unavailable made her have a dramatic realization about how important our marriage is.
But that wasn't the case. I had tried that. I had given up. She was sick, and she is not sick anymore. No doctor was involved. Doctors just thought she was depressed. Her body just healed somehow.
I would like to close with some message of hope. But I did nothing to improve the situation. She did nothing to improve the situation. She just got better.