Sexless Without ProgressLate 2011, I decided to end our counseling after a dozen sessions. My reasoning, to very surprised wife and therapists, was that we made no progress, mostly (in my opinion) because there was no improvement in our closeness - see my earlier posts here.
I had no expecations whatsoever of what I could expect. It still has not been a good year between us. Can low expectations lead to disappointment?
My wife has withdrawn completely and stopped sleeping in the same bed. No kisses, no touching, on a good day however, she will verbally state that we are a nice couple, but she leaves it at that.
December 2012, it is nice to re-read my past here, nice but not fun! It helps me understand my motive, does it help though?
A few women in my life seem to understand my predicament: give up and accept or keep fighting. Usually this leads to them feeling sorry for me and comforting me. The physical nearness makes me sadder, it tells me what I miss most.
We stopped talking about us about a year ago. Not only makes this her feel uncomfortable, it does not get us physically closer when I just complain. Darn. I am a (very!) successful business person but cannot manage my private life!
I really really appreciate your recommendations comments ramblings. It helps me through and gives me strength.. Several thousand of us, helping each other.
However, I am a bit stuck now. Always thought I would pull through, make it work, "revive her drive". It is terrible for me to admit failure, and funny enough I will not give in yet. I love her so much and I want us to continue together. How to tread the fine line?
manfromamsterdam 51-55, M 3 Responses 0 Dec 19, 2012