Hello friends, I recently joined the working on my marriage group as well. However I think I may need to leave that group. I think I have almost reached my lowest point. I have lost almost all of the hope. Not one night goes by that we can even have a normal conversation. I think it's him, he thinks its me. If I cry he gets angry. If I try anything he gets angry. If I do nothing he gets angry. And as always there is never any intimacy. After a bad night last week I told him I wanted to talk, he had an anxiety attack and went off on me about all the usual excuses he doesn't want to have sex with me. Tht wasn't even going I really be the topic I was going to talk about. Anyways, I ended up staying up and writing him a letter that I thought was about as caring and understanding I coul be at this point. I requested he keep the letter so I can refer back to what I suggested for us to try for fixing the marriage at least as a beginning. And that hen he's ready he talk about it with me. Needless to say it has not been brought up. I think I am at the end of my rope. Unfortunately this comes at an uncertain time for me financially. I have never been able to count on him financially so I'm not quite sure why that matters to me. But it just adds another layer of terror. I think it is time to start a real plan to get out. Is there anyone able to chat right now? Jut calm me down so I can start rationally thinking things out?