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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

At Least We Tried

By: ThatsJustMarvelous
Written on December 20th, 2012
The other night, I met a person in their late 60's that said although they'd had a few short relationships, they were always afraid that they wouldn't be loved they way they needed to be loved. That they were afraid they would have a bad marriage, get cheated on, get abused, etc...so it never happened.

So even though I'm lonely now, even though my marriage kind of sucks, I'm grateful to say that I've loved. I've tried. I've given my best to someone/something. And even if I end up alone, it wasn't always this way.
By: ThatsJustMarvelous
Age: 31-35 , Female
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  • Frenel
    Frenel

    You're still young. It's not as if you can't try again.

    Jan 8
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  • bazzar
    bazzar

    Your title - "At Least We Tried" stood out to me.

    There is precious little "We" in this story or your others.

    There's just you. And, you'd do well to base your choices (hopefully INFORMED choices) on that fact as - if you - plan to move forward.

    Tread your own path.

    Dec 20, 2012
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    • ThatsJustMarvelous
      ThatsJustMarvelous

      I meant we--as in this group. I don't think any of us would be here if we hadn't tried our little hearts out first.

      Dec 21, 2012
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  • zsuzsilowinger
    zsuzsilowinger

    I rate this UP. I think this is very important to remember!!! We took a chance. It didn't work out, but we gave it our all. Doesn't mean we won't get in future! Thank you ...

    Dec 20, 2012
    2 likes
  • neuilly
    neuilly

    To love requires risk. To love requires a willingness to be vulnerable. But, I think love is worth the risk. I think it is sad when people are that afraid of life that they won't even give love a chance.

    Dec 20, 2012
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  • Awakeforthedance
    Awakeforthedance

    Don't we get what we expect out of life? See, I EXPECT to be loved and loved greatly and I do feel I am -- in many ways from many types of people. I didn't always have this expectation, though. In my younger years, I expected to just be tolerated - I was "in the way" or apologizing for existing or apologizing for needs, and I was happy with "whatever I could get." (Insert marriage at about that same time). Is it any wonder then? We have to know what we WANT just as much as what we DON'T WANT. And then... live it -- expect it. What we focus on EXPANDS.

    Dec 20, 2012
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