Sexless Marriage Nearly Over, I Am Sexless No More!After the 'difficult conversation' lots of things happened (I got laid, but that is whole other story).
The main thing is that I started divorce proceedings, told family/friends and sorted out my finances. (I have a job, a really lovely job!)
In short I changed my focus from fixing a sexless marriage to building a new life.
I am immensely grateful to EP and the experiences I read on here. I learnt a lot about myself on EP. The Experience Project jolted me out of my 'fur lined rut', ie my dysfunctional marriage. That relationship lacked sex, communication, and intimacy, how I put up with it for so long I don't know.
Through EP, I 'met' people who encouraged me not to remain sitting in misery. I quickly grew in my understanding that I should want (demand) more from a married relationship.
One person in particular took the time and energy to challenge me to articulate my hurts/unhappiness and then move on to find a solution. He enabled and encouraged me to embrace the fact that I am an attractive worthwhile individual.
Collectively as well my friends and fans played an important part in my re-enablement. You made a difference to my life, and a huge imporvement in my well being.
I have been very fortunate in many respects, my divorce has been amicable. My children tell me they are okay with the divorce, we are still a family, just one where mum and dad are not married. Although, I am not allowed to have any 'sleepovers' yet!
I have grown stronger gradually and life has got better. It is not all a bundle of laughs but I am immeasurably in a better position than existing in a stale, long dead, sexless marriage.
I wish you all the compliements of the Season, and a New Year full of laughter, fun, opportunities and love.