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Frustrated Beyond Measures

I sent a text message to my husband today stating the kids would be gone, we would be alone in the house, & it was time to party & get wild together. He came home, didn't speak to me let alone touch me, and fell asleep in the chair. I checked his phone to make sure he received my text & he did. WTH...... I don't get it?!?!?!
southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 67 Responses Dec 27, 2012

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sounds very interesting, shavedmeat. I'm in.

I wish I could recieve a text like that. Believe me when I say it would not be ignored.

WTF is wrong with husbands now a days?!?!?!? They try to blame it on the women but truth be known its really them ...... It's not like it was 20 years ago where they were working 15 hour days .... Most women work just as much as men now :-/

I know what I would do if you'd texted me that. I mean, if my wife had texted me that. What a waste.

I can relate my bf seems to have lost his sex drive... Any other man would have been feeling like he hit the lotto...

sounds like my hubby.

If I was your hubby I`d make a point of getting off of work early fly home and jump your bones and other things.

I dream about getting a text like that from my wife...Mine gets annoyed pretty much anytime I even try to sit next to her....

sounds like my wife. 10 years ago we went to counseling, she would not participate in counselor recommendations. I gave up trying.

I wudnt have ignored it I promise!!!

WTF? Is he suddenly Gay? I would have taken advantage of every second of that time!

Text me,I'll come over and **** you as much and you deserve to be **** and have you breasfeed me at the same time baby ;)

All I can tell you is that if I had been your husband in that situation, the minute I walk in the door you would not have time to say, "Hi!" You'd be on your back with your legs up in a "V" grunting to every thrust my **** pushes inside you neglected vagina. Just saying!

I don't see how a guy could keep his hands off his wife after recieving a txt like that.... I would have been pulling your clothes off the second I walked through the door then I would have just taken you in the hallway on the stairs.... then in the kitchen after some food fun A'la 9 1/2 weeks ..... have to keep our strength up, then had you on the bathroom floor after a shower together and finally in the bedroom before falling asleep in each others arms totally spent.

I feel for a woman like yourself unloved and unsatisfied you deserve more from your husband.

I dont either if thT was said to me it would have been on would love to have my women text me that

I don't get it either. I would have set a land speed record to get home.

WTF alright I am still waiting for that .txt.I would even get of early and have some role play fun ready to roll out.

make me that offer i would not turn it down, when done you would know you would be well satisfied, hubby must be stupid and self centered

He's all of the above

If your hubby wont lay you down and ride you hard, then its time to get some action on the side from a younger stud and he will ride you till you cant walk for a couple of days

and that would be ok ;D

An old Letterman joke was the difference between fear and panic. fear was the first time you couldn't do it the second time. panic was the second time you couldn't do it the first time. I would suspect your hubby has seen panic and didn't like it. He proably would love to have sex with you but is afraid to try. some men's ego is easly broken and not easly repaired. As for the little blue pills, they didnt always work for me and it took so long to work. you also mentioned that he didn't last long. maybe this is what is bothering him. I don't know, but it will be really hard to get him out of this.

So in the meantime I just wither away

I don't know if this will help but you may try getting him a pump. The idea is to pull a vacumn on his penis, get it good and stiff, then put a stiff rubber band around it. It is suposed to keep it hard until the band is removed and lets the trapped blood flow out. It is also suposed to make it bigger over time. to get him out of the mood, afraid to have sex, jus be the sweet and caring wive your name implies. I had a pump once but never tried it with the rubber band so I am not sure about that. I have seen them advertized in some catalogs so I know they are around. Good luck

I feel your pain...... Must be so hard for you.


Either he's too embarrassed to even try to have sex by his problem or he's ****** someone else Cuz I don't think any man will just stop having sex.even if him and his wife have grown apart he will still have sex just to get his rocks off.or he has another person who is fulfilling his needs imo

That's what I'm sayin!! ;)

Maybe now its ur turn ;)

If I could prove it ..... I would ;)

OK lets get to work Sherlock!!

Don't think I'm not trying ;)

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Thats sad. but try talking to him. listen to him what he has to say. i would be jumping around if i get that mesg from my wife...

I've been in a relationship that become boring and less sexual. Today, I have an approach to maintain the excitement in our sex lives!


You know southernbell i wish we were a couple cuz this morning i woke up and my lady was sleeping so i comenced to give here a full body massage while doing this she woke up and laid there enjoying it when i got down to her coochy she rolls out of bed and sais thanks then she left the room. i love her so much but i dont know how much longer i can do this. it sounds like we should be together southern we both need what we cant get

There must be mad i would **** you all over the house if that was me just saying xx

if there is nothing you havent done then screw this guy and step out and do them all again with someone for instance :-) is short pretty girl , and sex life is even shorter, dont waste any of it

Southernbelle, I just happened across this post of yours. I'm so sorry for both you and your husband. He can't be very happy either. I think mild depression might be the reason. Remember, depression of the medical sort isn't feeling down because of something, it's feeling bland, no feeling, despite something to feel about. It may be your aggressive attempts just make things worse when he's unable to respond.

I wonder if your husband has any particular fetish. If so, you might try a little of that. I say 'a little' as I do think aggressive may be more of a turn off, if he's a little depressed, than a help. A small spark, not a big fire, to start with.