Hi. I'm new here but was thankful to find a site where I can relate to so many others about something that is very real and disturbing in my life. I have spent the last 3 years (the age of my youngest child) in a sexless marriage. My husband makes no attempts to change this, and nor have I. We talk about, make fun of ourselves, and compare our marriage with that of our friends daily. It's just that recently, I'm over it. I NEED sex to feel like a human being. I have seeked attention from other men forever, but now it's a mission. I have not physically cheated (yet) but I am have definitely mentally and emotionally strayed from my marriage. I have discussed the need for counseling with my husband repeatedly. We have 2 wonderful children that I would love to spare the stress of divorce from. Recently, my husband found some correspondence from me to another man on my computer (dumb me). I simply said "We need to have a sexual intimate relationship again or I may stray and I will have little control of that." Surprisingly, he understands and is more determined than ever to save our marriage and seek counseling. We shall see.