My Friend Has A Dilemma!My friends dilemma:
I have a friend who will remain anonymous for obvious reasons. She has a dilemma. She lives in an almost sexless marriage.
My friend is a pretty woman with a delightful body and a cheerful outgoing spirit.
She dearly loves her husband. Although she does have sex with her husband on occasion and she is grateful for that. It is most often very unsatisfying. My friend is a very sexual person. Her husband is not.
Not knowing her husband is difficult for me to say exactly what his problem is but he is obviously not satisfying her. I am not sure if he is unaware of of her sexual needs. Or does not have the capacity to understand. He seems to lack erotic recognition and the overt sexual being of his wife.
I am not sure weather he is a traditional conservative religious person who believes sex is dirty and disgusting. Or was sexually repressed during his childhood and young adulthood. From what I know he seems embarrassed by sex and does not see the wonder and beauty of being able to truly enjoy satisfying his wife.
My friend is very hungry for sexual ex
She is afraid to transgress her marriage vows as it may lead to further and deeper difficulties. She clings to her marriage while at the same time experiencing serious sexual frustration. She is not afraid of sex but embraces the concepts of wanton abandonment to sexual fulfillment. She would love to sacrifice her mind body and spirit to an extraordinary mind-bending sexual encounter. To a man that could take her to unkonwn places. To venture with her on a "Midnight Ride".
My friend is a loving woman. Previously instead of developing her own desires she has identified with her husband's desire, which sadly in this case are minimal. She was living simply for and through her husband. Nevertheless, her sexual desires and intense needs have made is a difficult proposition.
So where my friend goes from here is unknown. We will her tremendous sexual drive continued to haunt her? Will it eventually put her in a position to take real chances? To perhaps eventually meet a man who can satisfy her at least on a temporary basis. Will it cause her to actually physically "cheat" on her husband? Alternatively, will she continue to try to find a safe easy outlet for her needs through the Internet? At this point even the satisfaction that can be gained from the Internet is worrisome to her. It seems to unbalance and confuse.
I think with time my friend will find some comfort and satisfaction from the Internet. She will eventually become more comfortable with her needs versus her wants.
As I said in the beginning this is a dilemma. A serious dilemma and there are no easy answers. Unless her husband wakes to the fact that he is just as much a sexual being as she is. If he could understand that the two together can make beautiful love if he will just overcome his reluctance to enjoy my beautiful friend.
auspicious 61-65, M 13 Responses 4 Dec 30, 2012