It's Not All My FaultMy husband and I are going through problem, the biggest being sex. You see he likes to blame us not having sex on me, when really he shares a lot of the blame.
See when we met we finally started dating that's all we did we had sex, there really wasn't anything else we could do. We went to work, we went to the gym and we had sex. We lived to far away from anyone to hang out so it was just us.
Even when we were having sex there were things I told him, upfront, that I don't do. Like oral sex. It shouldn't matter why I don't do it he should know that I don't, and respect my wishes and not ask every ******* second of everyday. Period.
Anyway, when we finally moved closer to our friends we stopped having so much sex. Then we got engaged and not even half way through our engagement I got pregnant. And when I got pregnant my sex drive became virtually non existent. I just didn't want to be touched, hell I didn't even want to be looked at. Well this didn't sit well with my husband and his high sex drive. It took me almost a year to regain even part of my sex drive, to lose half of my baby weight and to start feeling sexy again.
Finally I got to a point where I wanted sex again, and another baby. Which of course made my husband happy, until I got pregnant and my sex drive disappeared again. And for both of my pregnancies I was put on bed rest at about 7 months and was no longer allowed to have sex.
Now on top of all this I've tried to have sex with my husband, but it's never what he wants. And he never appreciates when we do have sex. It's always what he's not getting. I've tried to explain to him that it's not just I don't have a sex drive that I don't want to have sex it's because I have the world bearing down on shoulders with no help from him.
I'm expected to go to school full time, take care of our two children, keep the house clean, and remember every little thing he has to do (appointments, homework etc) and watch him sit around and play video games, or watch sports, eat everything in the ******* house and then expect me to hop on his ******* **** every ******* night!
He wants to know what's different now then at the beginning of the relationship, not withstanding the children. I tell him, I'm not attracted to him anymore. You don't take care of yourself or our family. You are selfish as hell, and you only pretend to care about my feelings.
So yea I live in a sexless marriage but it's not all my fault.