One Year LaterHard to believe that my miserable life took a 180 degree turn from where I was one year ago. New Years Eve Last Year I found this site and thus began the most courageous and satisfying journey of my life thus far. After being in a relationship for 35 years, 28 of them married and of that 28 -25 of them sexless - I broke free. I know I couldn't have done this without the support and advice I received from the wonderful people I communicated with on this site.
I took an honest look at my life and decided that if anything was going to change it had to be ME. I made an EXIT STRATEGY and implemented it.
I started by taking a look at myself , who I was and what I had to offer and discovered from the feedback and friends I made here that I was intelligent, capable and worthy of a better life for myself. Then I took steps to protect myself financially, and got legal advice so that I could make intelligent choices. The steps and the doubts are well documented in the 30 stories I have contributed to this group.
I prepared myself for the worst and hoped for the best. I got the best. The support of my family who rallied around me and understood that there was always something not right about my marriage. I have regained a closeness with my siblings and that has been a blessing.
What I did not anticipate is that I would meet and fall in love with the most wonderful caring man. He also grew up in a small community with old school values and was treated shamefully in his marriage. We are healing each other and building a new life. Together we have a modest but comfortable home. There are still a few legal obstacles to overcome and we have the same problems that other people have, bills, auto repairs, health issues to work on. However the biggest change is that I no longer feel that I am doing everything alone . I can make a mistake now and be forgiven. I am being treated like a person and am surrounded by people who love me and accept me, flaws and all . I am happier than I have ever been.
Thank you to Baz, Ena, OmyTvc15, Mary Ryan, Ron Mc? :) , Warrior Poet, Amber Reflections, Neuilly, Awake for the Dance, Just Peaches , Chai07, plus many others
While I don't have mind blowing sex every night - I have what is considered to be a normal sex life. The part I treasure the most is what we call "Cuddle TIme" which is falling asleep in each other's arms. The second part of this is reaching out in the middle of the night to touch a warm body and the satisfaction of knowing that I am not alone anymore.
This is how the next chapters of my life begin. My wish for all of you who are still suffering is that you can find your new beginning as well .
cairinkimberley 51-55, F 6 Responses 4 Jan 3, 2013