I Am A Women And Live In A Sexless Marriage
I am 39.5 years old and fit. I have 2 boys and have been married for 13 years and dated my husband for about 4 years before we got married. We had great sex in the begining. It was like haven 4 times a week. Then I got pregnant, still having great sex.Then I had my second son, samething. In 2003 we moved to fl he got a teaching and coahing job. From that day on, everything went down hill. He live and sleep football and still do. We had forster kids for 5 years. I thought by keeping my self busy with the forster kids I wouldn't miss sex. I had to get rid of the forster kids , because I wanted to save my marriage. In 2009 I found out he cheated and his excuse was he wanted to see if he can get it up( FYI he was having problems getting it up in the bed room with me). Then she said he only did it 3 times. I was so devestated and I shut down. I couldn't understand why he would do such a thing and lie to me. I put 100 percent into the relationship. Now it will be 3 years in Feb.since we hadn't had sex. He plays alot of mind games, for ex. he will tell me, If you want you can be with someone else. When I say o.k, he flips out and say, so you just going to be with someone else. You are going to take my boys from me. If you do that you are selffish. I hate when he tells me, I am so sorry that I am putting you through this. He said he doesn't want to have sex anymore , because he hurt me so bad and when he looks at me, he sees all the pain he caused me and how depress I use to be. I don't know what to do anymore. When I talk to my mom , she tells me, he doesn't hit you, he hugs you, he loves you and he comes home every night. She says why are you complaing and the grass is not greener on the otherside. I am so lost, sad,lonely, confuse, depress, and stuck. I don't know what to do anymore.