Karma Of The Sexless Marriage

Sexless marriages are a symptom of a larger issue. The marriage itself is dysfunctional because you have two people involved that aren’t getting what they want out of the relationship. Sixty years ago if two people could live together and accumulate a home and a reasonable amount of material possessions and live a relatively comfortable life and raise their family the emphasis was on just maintaining the status quo. Women submitted to duty sex and men for the most part lived by a double standard where they did pretty much whatever they wanted. People cheated but it was kept quiet. There was dissatisfaction with the way things were but at that time people simply didn’t rock the boat because of social pressures.



As things changed and people started wanting more for themselves the idea of having a life that was more personally satisfactory changed things tremendously and as people became more dissatisfied with the way things were our society started coming apart at the seams. The divorce rate skyrocketed as people simply said I won’t settle for being unhappy. But we still have tons of people involved in sexless relationships because they are still tangled in the past and unable to extricate themselves from the tangles created by both finances and the legal jungles we create. Some simply haven’t got the courage to do anything different. So many people find different ways to cope some cheat which is only a social convention because why is it cheating if you aren’t being loved why are you allowed to be owned by someone? Others bury themselves in careers and hobbies or other activities. Some turn to drinking or drugs there are as many solutions as there are people. 

 

What it all boils down to though is choices that we make we each can choose what we will do. No one can trap you and make you stay in a sexless marriage without your cooperation. You are lying to yourself if you say you can’t get free because you can. The cost may be pretty high in many ways but freedom is available. It just may cost more than it’s worth to you. Accepting that as the real truth doesn’t make things easier but truth makes things look different. Once you quit lying to yourself things will start looking different and it changes your attitude about things. In some ways it may make it easier for you to deal with your situation because you can quit pretending. But the danger there is that truth will often set the timer going that will free you regardless of whether you want out or not. Because once you change then your soon to be ex-partner may find that you are not someone they want to have around anymore and hand you the papers. But karma works itself out one way or the other and you eventually will get what you need somehow.