Miserable In My RelationshipMy GF and I have been together for about 5 years. She is turning 50 in a month and I will be 48 this year. I am 5'8" around 170lbs, she is 5'4" around 220lbs. I came from a marriage where I had no passion for my wife and she has had 3 marriages all ending badly. We have known each other for most of our lives. When we got together everything was great, we kissed, loved, experimented. Now things couldn't be much different, we rarely kiss or hug unless I do it and most the time it is ignored or she pushes me away. Sex is only when she wants it, and it is usually only oral on her, once she comes its over and time for sleep. She has no problem asking for a massage but when I ask when I'm going to get one, it's always "later...maybe", it's really "never".
She continues to say she loves me and says that she doesn't think I'm happy anymore with her. I love her and find her sexy even though she has gained about 60lbs since we started living together. She says the reason she doesn't want to have sex is because she is uncomfortable with her body now. Except when she is horny then she seems comfortable enough with it, until she is satisfied. I know she loves me because of other things but this lack of loving emotions and passion is killing me. I now have developed ED, which hasn't responded to meds, which leads me & Dr.s to believe it is a mental issue. She doesn't touch me unless she has been drinking then usually its to pinch, poke, slap or otherwise cause me pain. I don't know, I love her but this is killing me. I tend to stay by myself in the bedroom playing on the computer or watching movies, when we are together in the living room she is either on her laptop or reading a book, but when I'm not there she complains that I don't want to be with her. It is frustrating and confusing. Trying not to cheat or JO, but just the lack of touch is driving me insane.