Wow...After three years of sexlessness and seeking legal advice I knew that something had to change and really thought I was ready for it. But procrastination set in...a little fear of change I guess. But the holidays brought a new low in our "relationship". Due to extended family (mine) coming to visit for the holidays my husband was forced (and I do not use the term loosely) to give up the guest bedroom and sleep in our bed. I was astonished. He literally brought his own pillows and blanket and proceeded to sleep on top of the covers. The next night he pushed my covers away from his side and slept under his covers. Before the week was out he was sleeping inverted in the bed - his pillows at the foot near my feet, his feet at the head near mine. Yeah, even I was totally speechless. His excuse he didn't want the light from the TV in his eyes "turn it off then" "naw I want it on," He also insisted on sleeping with the door open even though our bedroom is in the direct path to the kitchen. This arrangement continued for two weeks. When the guests left so did he leaving no trace that he had ever been in the master bedroom.
This left me with no doubt that it is completely over and co-existing in this manner is not healthy for me. He left me with absolutely no question of his abhorrence of any hint of intimacy with me. I was so tempted to say "Don't worry, I promise I won't touch you or breathe on you." So 2013, I am preparing financially, career-wise to move on. Just because you don't argue does not mean your relationship isn't dysfunctional. This house was my dream home...but I have to leave it. This just isn't right.