12 Rude Revelations About Sex - By Alain De Botton

12 Rude Revelations About Sex




In order to transcend the discomfort that sex typically stirs, you may need to radically rethink desire, marriage, fidelity, and much more.



By Alain de Botton, published on January 02, 2013



This is just an excerpt - for the full article go to http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201212/12-rude-revelations-about-sex?page=2

Why is "Not tonight, Dear" so destructive?

Logic might suggest that being married or in a long-term relationship must guarantee an end to the anxiety that otherwise dogs attempts by one person to induce another to have sex. But while either kind of union may make sex a constant theoretical option, it will neither legitimate the act nor ease the path toward it. Moreover, against a background of permanent possibility, an unwillingness to have sex may be seen as a far graver violation of the ground rules than a similar impasse in other contexts. Being turned down by someone we have just met in a bar is not so surprising or wounding. Suffering sexual rejection by the person with whom we have pledged to share our life is much odder and more humiliating.

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1 Response Jan 8, 2013

Suffering sexual rejection by the person with whom we have pledged to share our life is much odder and more humiliating.

------this is for sure true