The Professional VictimIf you are on these boards it is most likely that you are saddled with what we call in ILIASM as a Refuser.
However i have also come to realise that it would be fair to say that in many cases the Refuser is also a Professional Victim. So what is a Professional Victim you ask?
A Professional Victim is somebody who feels they are forever wronged in their life. They will complain endlessly about all the things that have gone wrong in their life and on a day to day basis you included.
If you are unfortunate enough to live with a Professional Victim well life can be hell. You are forever attacked and reminded of all the things you do wrong by him or her. True or Untrue. Every effort on your behalf to please the Professional Victim will go unappreciated and more likely be used as just another excuse as to why and how you hurt them.
A Professional Victim engages in extremely negative behavour and loves to forever play the martyr. If the Professional Victim is not martying themselves out than they are never happy.
The Professional Victim is not a victim at all instead they are a sheep in wolves clothing. The Professional Victim is always on the prowl and looking for ways to bitc...h, moan, complain, & run down their partners self esteem with their self aborbed distorted bullsh...it.
The Professional Victim loves to set you up and is forever laying traps to catch you in. How many times have you asked your partner is it ok if he/she babysits so you can go out on a particular day with your friends? The Professional Victim will happily agree to your little excursion even encourage it only when the day comes and you eventually come home from your little adventure you find he/she is in a bad mood, & streesed out. They then spend the rest of the week reminding you how horrible you are for what you have done to them and just how bad you treat them. It is usually at this point where they tell you just how bad a parent you are as well becuase on the one day a month you choose to go out all of a sudden in their distorted minds you are the worst parent.
Also i am sure many here have heard this line from the Professional Victim they live with. If only you cleaned the house, took out the garbage, made dinner, mopped, cleaned the bathrooms, etc so i wouldn't have to do it all I WOULD BE MORE WILLING TO GIVE YOU SEX. This line my friends if you ever hear it is the biggest Malakey ever fed to mankind and should never ever be believed. You could perform Saint Like Miracles and you still wont be getting any loving from your Professional Victim who by now has taken your miracle making and turned it into a sin
SO in conclusion if you are living with someone who constantly complains about their life and how bad you treat them, or just how much your parents offend them,(even when your parents do nothing wrong) or perhaps they blame you for everything even if the sun was to fall out of the sky you are indeed living with a Professional Victim.
Life with a Professional Victim is extremely tough and at times the parftner of a Pofressional Victim prays for death. Indeed to them death by Darth Vaders lightsaber seems more pleasurable than having to endure the constant rants of a Professional Victim.
You see there is no cure for a Professional Victim, it is a condition that is associated with Narcissism and Bipolar.
If you are unfortunate enough to live with a Refusive Professional Victim than i really do pity you. Your options are limited and unpleasant. In most cases having a good exit plan is about the only form of insurance you can take out against the Professional Victim.
Frustrated1978 31-35, M 9 Responses 3 Jan 8, 2013