ExpectationsAfter the 500th time I brought up the conversation of the unfairness of this marriage she used a word that made me really think, "expectations".
During that conversation I asked her (again) why it was so easy for her to take from me, but so difficult to give back. Her answer was "you're a man and I have certain expectations of you".
When she said that I froze. "Expectations???" I asked myself. So I asked her to list some of these expectations so I may have a better understanding of where my shortcomings as a husband are. Like a grocery list of items she stated out loud what I should be doing for her;
You should love me for who I am (aka, I don't want sex so stop trying to get it).
You should pay all the mortgage and utilities, because she works hard for her money and she should be saving it.
I need to buy her presents more often, out of the kindness of my heart.
I need to take her out more.
I need to take her on another vacation.
I need to help her pay her bills.
I need to understand that sex is something she does when she wants.
And she continued for a while more. After she was done I asked her a question that completely set her off.
I asked, "what expectations should I have of you?" She responded by very angrily saying, "I am your wife and I love you, if that's not enough to make you happy then you're the one with the problem."
I sat there and laughed mockingly. I then grabbed my coat and went for a walk. I never thought I could be so bitter by age 26.