And Now It Gets UglySTBX and I have been working on our divorce. Or, more honestly, I have been working on it while he pretends it is not happening. We have a house that we have been renting out and our renter gave notice that Dec. would be his last month. Perfect, we have an empty house. STBX told me he would be moving out this week. I was ecstatic! I think we can get along, but not while we are under the same roof. Well, he took note of my happiness and informed me today that he would not be moving after all. He then proceeded to tell me that in order to save money we needed a do it yourself divorce. I informed him that I had already hired and payed for my attorney and was not going to fire him. We went round and round for about half an hour. STBX telling me I didn't need a lawyer and me saying I already had one. He finally demanded that I sign some papers he had drawn up without consulting my lawyer. When I refused it sent STBX into a rage. He actually threw some things across the room. He accused me of trying to rip him off even though we have not even discussed money yet. He stills asks me to pretend like we are a normal couple in public because he has not yet informed his family of our plans. Yep, we are going to be in for the long haul.
Today I saw my therapist and told him about how I have begun to explore my sexual nature outside of my marriage. I said it as a confession since I am not yet divorced. My wonderful therapist said to me, "That is STBX talking. You do not need to apologize for making yourself happy." I really needed to hear that today. So, despite the upcoming sh*tstorm, I feel amazingly positive today. I am not going to do the job of criticizing me for him.