Young And SexlessI posted this story last week but I put it in the wrong section. I reposted it here because some people that have replied to my other stories don't really get what I mean when I say I try very hard to please my wife.
I have been with my wife for almost 5 years now. When we first started getting serious in every aspect she told me that she didn't want to have sex for 1 year to ensure that I didn't want her for just sex. I agreed and so we went. Fast forward 5 years and I feel like that year is still not over. We have sex 2-3 times a year (if I'm lucky), but never more than 10 minutes and only in 1 position. As she states, "I'm not your ***** to be doing it whenever you want and however you want." So for 5 years I've lived like this, begging, pleading, doing anything and everything she has asked of me. Giving her everything she asks of me. Yet nothing comes of it. I'm 26 and good looking. I am constantly asked out by the women I work with, but I won't do it. I'm afraid of what will happen if I allow myself to have a good time with another woman that might actually have a sexual interest in me. So I go home, beg for sex, get rejected, and watch some television. Wow, I never thought this would happen to me, especially since I have been nothing but good to a woman that doesn't deserve my love and care.
I am afraid of hurting her and I don't want the feeling of abandoning her. But I have also made my feelings about our relationship over the years very clear. I tell her I need her to fufill my needs, to care for me as a man and the husband she promised to love. I guess it's not important or difficult to deal with when your the one getting everything you ask for from your partner.
It's been 3 months since we were last intimate with each other. And that session only occurred because I finally broke down and told her I was leaving her unless she takes care of my needs. So of course she gave me the 7 minutes of pitty sex and like the beggar that I am I gladly accepted it. Yet I felt at that moment that nothing would change and so far it hasn't.
She always uses the classic excuses, I'm tired, I'm stressed, I'm not in the mood, can you be more romantic. So I made a plan to make her weekend as easy, stress free, fun, and romantic as possible. On Friday I dropped her off and picked her up from work so she wouldn't have to stress out in traffic. I washed all the bed sheets, did the laundry and cleaned the house (she's a neat freak). After she left work I took us out to a nice dinner at her favorite restaurant, then we went to a nice cafe for coffe and desert, and finally to the theater to see a movie of her choice. After getting home I DIDN'T do anything sexual. I gave her a full body massage, let her take a hot shower, and then we cuddled in bed together (which is usually as good as it gets in bed). On Saturday I took her to breakfast and again dropped her off at work. I should mention, I'm not unemployed, I just took an extended weekend to put my plan into action😐. I then picked her up from work and took her home. I sent her to the salon and paid for her to get a manicure and a pedicure. While she was at the salon I prepared her favorite home cooked meal for dinner. She came home feeling terrific and thanking me for the last few days. Again I didn't attempt anything at that point. After dinner I did the dishes, cleaned the kitchen, and threw out the garbage while she took a hot bath. When she was done, she said "babe can you come up here". I was certain my plan had paid off. I swear I flew up those steps towards the bedroom. At that point I see her standing next to the washer and she very angrily says "why would you leave clothing in the washer, why wouldn't you throw it in the dryer right away?." I froze. Thinking to myself, all this work I did this weekend derailed by clothes in the washer. Needless to say, she told me to put the clothing in the dryer because she was tired and was going to bed. I put the clothing in the dryer in an attempt to salvage my efforts. I then came to bed and attempted to be romantic with her. But of course all my efforts were useless at that point. She was in her impenetrable "no sex tonight" fetal position. So I layed there thinking to myself, this is what is in store for me??? Is this woman worth it anymore?? The only answer I kept seeing was NO.