On LoveI think I have made this observation here before, but now that I'm out of my SM and in love with someone amazing, it keeps popping into my mind.
I wonder how much of love is our desire to GIVE love---not just to receive it. We all have so much love to give, but the reality is that our partners don't always want it---why they don't is irrelevant. When we meet someone who actually lets us love them, we are so excited that we don't quite realize they aren't capable of loving us back in the way we want.
Being able to really love is not a bad thing---just because your SM might make it seem that way. If you are a person with a lot of love to give, you are very special. The world needs more people who are loving. So just because your partner can't enjoy it or return it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, or them. It just means you need to be with someone who deserves the love you have to give, and can enjoy it and return it in the way you need.
The trick is not to love less, to restrain your desire to give in order to make your spouse comfortable. The trick is to love freely, deeply, passionately, sincerely. If your partner can't accept that, you are with the wrong partner.