I Left My Sexless Marriageand it was hard. I had tried for so long to make it work. For him to see that I needed any kind of intimacy from him. But he didn't have it in him. I left in September of 2011 and haven't seen him since. We do still talk on the phone, email more than a few times a week and yes, he's my facebook friend. He knows why I left and he has said he's sorry that he couldn't do anything. Like I've said here on this board, his normal and my normal are different. I will and still do love him. Probably always will. I had even told him that he was my soul mate, but I just wasn't his.
I have been single since I left him. Working on finding me. And it's been great so far. Have gotten so much closer to my sister and our Mother. Been working full time, put in some overtime, put a lot into savings and RRSP's. Have taken 2 solo trips to Vegas........ absolutely loved every minute of it!! And yes, planning on another soon. I even bought a new car!!
Even though I left a sexless marriage, I knew I wasn't ready for any kind of sexual relationship. But now, this is a new year. And I feel as though I am emotionally ready for a relationship. I've started dating. Yea me!!
I was scared at first when I left him. Not knowing if I could find a job, a place to live, be able to support myself....... But it is possible. Anything is possible. Everything is possible. And I owed it to myself...... I couldn't live, I just couldn't exist under the conditions that he believed were acceptable.