Update Number....?when last i posted, i was still reeling from the news of some really devastating financial crap my has been up to these past x years.
i have successfully frozen both accts (found out this week both banks froze on the day i spoke with them, go me!) and gotten back information from one. the second has been a bit more problematic. i left progressively unpleasant-er msgs and yesterday threatened to involve attys. well that did it. VP called me & explained what they've done so far & by close of business the manager of client data had left a msg for me. so, today, after a month of wrangling, i will finally get back data on the second bank info.
THEN i can go hire the atty.
i had planned to give h a letter this past weekend and talk with him. upon advice from a coworker: give him *nothing* in writing. and she recommended i say nothing unless & until i am ready to grab my daughter & leave.
while i am not sure it needs to be that drastic...i do believe she's entirely right about not giving him any potential ammunition by putting anything in writing to him.
i also need to be able to tell him when our daughter is not only not around, but best she's either on a sleepover or at a friend's house. i really don't want any chance she could overhear what might become a really ugly discussion.
if it *were* "just the sex" it'd be easier. but given the extenuating *other* crap, it is definitely bound to get ugly.
just letting you know why i am seemingly hanging in limbo. every day it gets harder.
thanks for being here. xo