How Was The Policy Made ?Nearly everyone here is in a sexless marriage, bar the odd visiting flamer and/or troll.
I am rather curious about "how" this position was negotiated by you and your spouse.
Theoretically, an event of such seriousness as the minimisation of sexual ex
How did you argue your position on this matter ? How did your spouse argue their position ? How did you negotiate your position ? How did your spouse negotiate their position ? Did you arrive at the policy by consensus ? By mutual co-operation ? By compromise ? How ? How was the policy to minimise or eliminate sexual ex
See, I am betting that there was no such discussion. I am betting that one of the spouses adopted a Nike philosiphy and "Just Did It". I am betting that you were not even consulted, not even invited to have some input into the policy, not even given a vote before the policy was adopted into practice.
If this is pretty much what happened to you, then I defy you to find any semblance of a "we" motivation in the dynamic. And if you ain't got "we" in a marriage, then you ain't got ****.
I'd invite you to look at other suppossed "we" decisions in your marriage. Like where "we" ended up living. Like who controls the money. Like who decides where "we" will eat. Like where "we" go on holiday. Like any aspect of the union that nominally involves a "we".
I'd be betting that there is precious little "we" going on, and instead, plenty of "me".
Further, I would suggest that a marital situation ba
Tread your own path.
bazzar 56-60, M 34 Responses 31 Jan 18, 2013