Raising $ For The Victims Of LingerieLong-time reader of this group, first post here, I might do the full story later but here's an interesting development. From many years of experience, and from reading this group I'm a big believer that talk doesn't solve much, action does. A bunch of years ago I made moves to separate, and this motivated my wife to make some changes. Besides asking for an increase in frequency, I asked her to spice things up a bit, and she decided to buy some lingerie for that.
This week we were discussing things, and she said she felt my intention to separate had destroyed the trust in our relationship. She mentioned how I "forced" her to wear painful lingerie, to which I asked how was it painful, since it hadn't been on for very long. She said it had rubbed her private parts, causing a burning, and that she feels I should not have imposed on her, and I should have known when I married her she was not the type to wear lingerie. It turns out I was also to blame for some other stuff, where she made some bad personal decisions, since if I had not given her the chance to make those decisions, she would not have made them.