More On Sexless MarriageI thought I would post a little more about my story. Now make sure yall know that I have done all the romantic things women say they want. Flowers on lots of non-occasions...LOTS of times, just on my way home from office, LOTS of times. Telling her , everyday, that I loved her, she's the most beautiful girl in the world all the way to the point that one day she said, "I wish you wouldn't say that so much" I was devastated. I assure you, she didn't hear either one for a long time. She didn't even seem to notice. I open and close doors for her. Hold her chair. I come home in a loving, good mood. Now I'm sure I've had a few days, but most every day. I hug and kiss, she doesn't even seem to like this anymore. We went to a counselor for a while, she quit. I remember saying to him that I didn't understand why even when we would go out on an effort to have a romantic date, we NEVER had good sex, maybe occasional give it up sex, but never anything that she seemed to enjoy. Just get it over with. Her answer for this was, well why do we have to do anything just because we went out. Remember when I say never, I mean it, never. He questioned this, after finding out that it was her attitude not to, I don't know....Give in? Then he said, well isn't that what going out is sort of for when you're married, to get intimate....She sort of gave up that excuse, but it never got better. It just seems like...She will never do anything that is expected of her. He called her "A brick wall" when I asked him one time when we were alone without my wife, and said she'll never change. Something he said he had said about maybe four or five of his patients before.
I'm just stupid. Don't copy my mistakes, get out of a marriage that you know won't get better. By the way, when I ask her if we can talk about it, I get ignored, or a shoulder shrug.
gdoc1222 51-55, M 4 Responses 0 Jan 20, 2013