I Did It
I've learned from the posts here. There are only three choices- either accept it, take a lover or get a divorce, plain and simple. Well, I have the papers and I'm filing on Thursday, not so much because of the lack of sex (18 years) but because of everything else. My friends have encouraged me and I know now that there's life after a dysfunctional relationship. I wish my spouse well, and I am excited about the future! Thanks to all the posters here who enlightened me and encouraged me to "grow some."