Learning To Let Go...I have been in a sexless marriage for the better part of a decade. For a long time I entertained the notion that it could change for the better. At this point though, I've given up hope of ever resurrecting a sex life even close to what it once was. I'm trying to accept and work with that.
The thing about it is, apart from the lack of sex, or even intimacy, my wife and I have a very good relationship. We are kindred spirits, we share a vision, we have worked hard to achieve a shared goal. We have many, many good things in our shared lives. Sex just isn't one of those things.
So this is me trying to break out of the denial phase and move into the acceptance phase. It's tough. I try not to be resentful, angry, or depressed, but I am sometimes. I have no interest in stepping outside of my marriage, and I don't want to make my wife do something she doesn't really want to do.
I actually think it will be easier for me emotionally to accept the demise of our sex life, than it has been to keep hoping it will return. That roller coaster of hope, expectation, and then crushing rejection, is almost too much to bear.