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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

The Die Is Cast....

By: smithy8015
Written on January 24th, 2013
Age: 46-50 , Female
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11 responses
  • Fienchanny

    Focus on you. What's done is done...he's created the debt situation, you have chosen to leave him without it being resolved. Tally your gains and losses, and move on. I agree with Lao, this is the toughest part of the gauntlet...dig deep into yourself and rely on others whenever necessary. Stay strong :)

    Jan 29
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  • smithy8015

    thanks guys. don't know why, there was a lot more i wrote and (formatted properly too!) but yet it didn't post.

    i am mildly terrified at how difficult the whole process is going to be with him. he appears completely clueless about the long term effects this debt will have on all of us, and especially our daughter's near and far term future.

    according to him, everything will be okay "in due time."

    yah on planet clueless maybe.

    anyway baz i hadn't heard that term thanks for the half smile. and yes, i am breathing. even if its more like hyper ventilating at the moment.

    Jan 29
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  • LaoTzu

    Focus on 'me' thinking from here on in. All communication is via your attorney. This is one of the more difficult part of the gauntlet. Keep breathing.

    Jan 29
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  • bazzar

    I have heard the erstwhile "Judge Judy refer to this as "STD" - but in her world it stands for "Sexually Transmitted Debt" (a bit of a misnomer as applied to an ILIASM shithole, but I'm sure you get the drift)

    Your financial recovery has now started. There will be measurable progress to this process (unlike a shithole marriage).

    Keep punching.

    Tread your own path.

    Jan 29
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  • txmusicgal

    aww smithy. so sorry you were duped by him financially!! that sucks!! BUT, i am SO proud of you for staying strong (as strong as you can be right now) and actually FILING!! that's HUGE! sending you love and light as you go through this process. I can give you tips on snooping, i'm pretty good at that apparently. ;)

    Jan 27
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  • hylierandom

    (((HUGS)))

    Jan 24
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  • redwaterlady

    (hug)

    Jan 24
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  • zsuzsilowinger

    *hugs*

    Jan 24
    2 likes
  • bazzar

    Apart from your EP support, and your personal IRL support network, you now have a professional in your corner as well. From that point of view, your position is stronger today than it was yesterday.
    This is all good.
    But it sure as **** isn't much fun.

    Feeling for you Smithy.

    Tread your own path.

    Jan 24
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    • smithy8015

      thanks baz. can't tell you how invaluable the support & the experience-based knowledge of you all is & has been.

      Jan 24
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