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It Was So Worth It For Me!

Hey everyone! I haven't been on this board for quite a while but just wanted to give everyone an update. I'm 4 months of 6 into my separation and it was totally worth it. Me and the W are still amicable save for a few incidents but all in all I feel lucky there's no mud flinging between us. It's great going to places and flirting and doing things as I please. Each day I'm more positive and feel great about myself and don't second guess the decisions that were made. It's almost overwhelming the amount of choices I have. I'm planning on going places and doing things I've always wanted to do with a fresh perspective. I know exactly what kind of woman I want and what I don't and know the warning signs so I know when to run. What was so funny was the other night we were talking and the tone of the conversation was nice..almost sentimental, then she went upstairs and I went to tell her something quickly before I forgot. She was talking to her son and I said I had something quick to say, she then said in an icy, condescending voice and holding her finger at me "wait I'm talking". Suddenly all those warm feelings went out the window. I can't say what worked for me will work for others but I am much happier than I have ever been in my life. Like WP says..I tread my own path and am glad. Good Luck all!
loyalguy loyalguy 41-45, M 6 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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Glad to hear of your better future. Any newbie here should take a leaf out of your book.

Stay Strong & Good Luck

Thank you, It's amazing how different I feel compared to my first story

I love this sentence!! "Each day I'm more positive and feel great about myself and don't second guess the decisions that were made."

That is wonderful to hear. And the feedback from your wife (she then said in an icy, condescending voice and holding her finger at me "wait I'm talking") is invaluable. It helps remind you of the REALITY that existed in your day to day life together. It is good to have those times when things are comfortable and nice between you both - but they are NOT the norm, even now.

Please continue to keep us updated on your progress - it is GREAT to hear from you. And wonderful to see you moving forward in your life with such confidence and hope for the future! {{{hugs}}}

I sure will..the clouds have cleared!

So happy for you!

Thank you for the kindness!

What a wonderful story.

Congratulations on living that higher quality of life!

And thank you for the update loyalguy!

Your very welcome..just wanted to say there is light on the other side.

Any "Newbie" would do well to go back to Brother loyalguy's first story back on July 4th 2011, where he arrived on the boards with a textbook "everything is great bar the sex" position. And read the run of stories.

By dint of hard hard work, challenging his thinking and making informed choices based on the truths of his situation, his momentum started, and in fits and starts, getting some traction (and doing some wheel spinning at times) forward he went.

Good stuff brother.

Tread your own path.

Thanks Baz..you peeps rule!

So good to hear from you and that things are going well! Take care and best of luck as you continue moving forward. =)

Thank you, it's so nice to start to live authentic..