Ready For A Marriage BreakdownI'm a 32 year old married man. My wife and I have been married for about 3 years and we've been together for 6. We originally met back in 1997 on the Official Star Trek website chat rooms. we had a relationship that lasted for about 2 years. During the time we were together, back in the day, she convinced me to go to her church. I enjoyed it. Long story short, I got saved on July 23, 1998. several months later we were separated by her family. I had no way to contact her for several years so i tried moving on and i met my first wife. It started out good until she began to be abusive. I ended up having 4 beautiful girls with my first wife until i had my last beating from her and she had me removed from my own house so she could move her boyfriend in. During my exile before i got back on my feet my first Girlfriend called me out of the blue at my dad's house. and we mended out friendship. fast forward 3 years and we were married. We have not had much of a sex life and it has always been very disturbing to me. Most nights i cry myself to sleep. I keep asking myself why.......
There have been many times during the course of our marriage that i have attempted to have a discussion about our intimate relationship and she refused to talk about it. Like she hated the fact that i would even bring it up. The times between intimate encounters keeps getting longer and longer. After a 6 hour time of intense fellowship yesterday she finally confessed to me that she does not like sex, does not desire sex, does not desire me sexually, and would be happy if we never had sex again.
I am insanely hurt by this. I have had the thoughts of an affair on my mind but for one i don't think i could and two i have no one. I have also been contemplating divorce. And i keep having this verse running around my skull 1Cor 7:3-4 (NRS) The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
For the wife does not have authority over her own body,
but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
Tearfulhusband 31-35, M 6 Responses 1 Jan 28, 2013