I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Concerned

By: inlovebutnosex

Written on January 29th, 2013

She wants to spice up our sex life With a *********. First a girl then a guy. she says it will not change our relationship no matter what .we've been married for 10 years and we are happy. I'm wondering will it change things if we go about it.

By: inlovebutnosex

Age: 46-50

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onmyway113

Agree with her except you pick the male and the female.. Pick a real ugly guy and get his measurements ( you know which one) and then pick a really Hot female. see what she has to say then. I also would not be there for the MMF one leave her alone with the ugly one and stay for the hot female.. lol

Jan 30
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- DrBanner
  LOL
  
  Jan 30
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Stayandcheat

This is more than "spicing up"... this is like downing shots of liquidised chillies!
Take a positive from this, at least she's communicating her sexual desire with you and wants you there on that journey.
From a dysfunctional SM perspective; I'd say her desire is the MMF and the FFM is just to placate you. Ball in your court.

Jan 30
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bazzar

You need a rock solid marital foundation under you both to withstand the pressure this proposed move would put on it.
Her claim that - "it will not change our relationship no matter what" is one of the most ridiculous statements I've heard for many a day. It WILL change the dynamic, and whereas that might not be a bad thing, it is far far far more likely to have a negative effect.
If however she is big an emptyhead as presented in your story, then doing this, collapsing the marriage and moving on might actually be a really good outcome in the bigger scheme of things.
Tread your own path.

Jan 30
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GibbySan

http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Want-To-Have-A-*********/3738

Jan 29
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GibbySan

So, she won't have sex with you, but she WILL have sex with you if someone else is participating. Do I have that right?

Jan 29
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- something2talkabout
  I'm confused, the story is from inlovebutnosex, thus one (or two or three) would think it would be "She wants to start up our sex life"
  
  Jan 29
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- GibbySan
  Could be he's a troll, but I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt for now.
  
  Jan 29
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- inlovebutnosex
  No we do have sex. but she wants to spice things up. get the fantasy out of the way
  
  Jan 29
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- something2talkabout
  the sexless marriage forum is not the ideal place to ask about sexmore marriage
  
  Jan 29
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- GibbySan
  Why is your user name inlovebutNOSEX if you aren't in a sexless marriage?
  
  Jan 29
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- inlovebutnosex
  Thanks and no I'm not a troll.we've been together for 10 years.
  
  Jan 29
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- GibbySan
  Some people think it's funny to post here and let us know how much they are getting.
  So - why is your user name what it is?
  I mean - mine could be - MYHUSBANDCANTKEEPHISHANDSOFFME - but then why would I be here in this forum?
  
  Jan 29
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- enna30
  MHCKHHOM - Nah! too long! Sorry Gib - you'll have to stick with GibbySan!
  Oh! What? You are saying your husband CAN keep his hands off you? Well at least the initials stay the same!
  
  Jan 30
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Changewilldoyougood

My thoughts on ********** and open or swinging situations are evolving currently but this much I know... if you relationship is even a tiny bit not solid... if there are hurts that have no been healed... if there are insecurities in either of you... opening things up to another person will only exacerbate things. You must know that your relationship is completely solid before undertaking something like this or your relationship will falter.

Jan 29
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