After So Much StruggleIt was suggested to me elsewhere that my story may help people here and so I chose to copy paste it. I hope it helps or brings clarity to some of you...
After 3 years of self reflection it boils down to a few things.
Ask yourself seriously...
Do you feel good about being with your partner ?
Do you want to be near them?
Are there fundamental undermining problems which actually destroy(destroyed) the relationship and your self worth dignity? Can you forgive these? Can you live with these hits?
Will you as a person feel better being free of all the drama in your relationship?
Have you ever realized you are being manipulated or abused or micro manged by your spouse to keep you controlled.? Look up emotional abuse and narcissistic personalities.
Are you sick of being told how stupid you are?
Are you sick of being told your dreams are wrong?
you are not capable.
Did you seek the comfort outside your marriage of a woman or man?
It is time to think seriously of your life. Are you better than all this and do you deserve more than it?
Nothing will get better while we write about it.
Nothing will change if we just rationalise it away.
A lover will not take away your issue.
Do you want a chance at a real vibrant partner in your life who loves you will die for you and cant wait to touch you....add support respect trust?
Yes yes I hear you say the kids..the house ..well its all bs. You are just afraid to take control of your life and keep making excuses but take your time because it does take time to understand the real truth. The truth is a ***** that you dont love yourself enough once you know to allow the chance for a better life.
If you dont love them anymore and you dont respect them then respect yourself get counseling join support groups to get to where you know you will be free of those shackles. No I am not refering to the shackles of a marriage but the shackles of a loveless one sided draining soul destroying marriage.
The love of your life could be getting it on with someone else while you wallow in self pity.
If you stay you deserve the pain. If you go it will be scary but a happy single parent home with less money is way better than allowing this poor example to be shown to your kids.
They will grow older you will be older and viagra wont even help you so do it while you are still able to enjoy some years of your life.
Think about it. Who gives a rats arse who you hurt from here on in. If they took care of you you would not be here . So have some concrete and do whats right for you