Where To Start When There Is Nothing??Has anyone seen the movie Hope Springs? Well the couple in the movie reminded me of my husband and I (except for the seperate bedrooms). Our days are just the same-work, dinner, kids, relaxing (usually separate activities) and bed. Just about the same, everyday. We talk, get a long for the most part, but there just isn't any real relationship there. I feel sometimes that we are like roommates. I sometimes don't want to be around him because he annoys me. If you read my other post, you will see that my husband has been gaining lots of weight, to the point where he cannot have intercourse because of it (believe me, we have tried). And with this it has brought a whole slew of problems and resentments from me.
So, I'm eating healthier, going to the gym and want him to do this with me. Something for us to do, together (usually its stuff we do alone or as a family, never just the two of us). I am not ready to give up on our marriage, not willing to sleep with someone else or throw our 16 years down the drain. But where do I start to get some sort of spark back? Even if its not sex, I want intimacy. I want us to WANT to be close together, but with life, you know how it gets, we get laxed in what is important. We didn't go on a date for over a year.
What worked for you? What suggestions do you have to rekindle something that really isn't even there anymore???