The Final Talk Or The Interval?
Am 26 married for 5, seven years of being together n i feel like its coming to an end already. sex was on the everyday menu till my wife got pregnant n like every good thing that was the end of my sex life. everybody suffered during the gfc one way or another, that time i was jobless and my wife pregnant, our situation was quite bad but we were really happy for we suffering for our future baby. i had to look for work and couldnt find a proper job to make a proper caring for the family, job were being at a rate of as low as $50 a day and ihad to do it, no choice.i love my wife more than anything else but after the baby was born things dramatically changed to worse..when at first i asked her she she dont feel like, ok. the she doesnt really like it now then she dont like it anymore n that was like nearly 9 months later. i start wondering whats wrong, try talking her out but she wouldnt open up, then she start playing the work n stress card..by then it was already pass a year and the kid was already 1..so start getting serious abt it and finally yesterday after the guests left i asked her to sit we needed to talk abt where our relationship's standing and she tried to avoid it. persisting i got her to sit n talk. she keep telling me that she dont like it, when i persisted she says that she dont like sex anymore she just dont feel anything for me, no love or compassion anymore. i was like thunder struck i do everything i can to keep her happy i try everything n now she dont even care. she dont like me or any other guy or girl. she just want to b alone, ok i understand she was 21 when she was pregnant and she wants to live her life, yeah sure but am i not part of that life like i ve been for the last 7 years! now she wants to split to go her way n get her career back on trck n do som saving. ok so i asked if she wants a divorce coz she says that its all my fault she wont achieve anything as long as she s with me. if staying away from me she will be more happy so be it, if shes happy then am more than happy, but she dont even want a divorce she just want a break but she s not sure for how long, my son is nearly 2 and since he born we had sex maybe 3 or 4 time max...now i dont even know wat to do wat do think or where to seek counsel, and i am more than happy when she said she dont want a divorce but for how long will this last....sex i can get anywhere but not love...pls someone shed som light in my dark moment..i need it