Sending Email To EX Regarding Obligations - What Do You Think?NOTE: pics are posted in my profile as "public", feel free to have a look and let me know if I am overreacting! I have comments for each pic...
Well today was the deadline for cleanup of the ba
I'm just going to put this all down in writing so we're on the same page!
Just to go over what's already been discussed:
Back in November we had a discussion regarding the fact that I will need to find either work or paid school after April this year, as I will have zero money coming in at that time.
That means I likely will have to move, possibly to another city or country. At this point, that means the children will move as well. There is not enough funding for you to stay here in the house by yourself, nor is your health such that you could take the children for any extended period of time.
Given all that, the options are to rent or sell the house at that time. The best option we discussed was to rent the house out, but either way, we both agreed that the house has to be in shape so that we can get the best value for either the rental or sale of the property, as anything less would shortchange the CHILDREN. To that end, I have independently done and paid for extensive clearing out and cleaning of the upper floors of the house, discarding approximately 5 carloads of possessions, and more to follow. I have thus far paid for and committed approximately $7,000 of my own money from a personal line of credit to repair the bathroom, hallways, and front window, with more repairs necessary to get the house into code.
To that end, we agreed that your commitment would be that you would clean up/out the ba
For the past almost 3 months, you have known of this deadline. You have made some change, in that many of the possessions are not not in your room, but instead are in boxes, in bags, or strewn in the ba
Now, in addition to the problem of cleaning your room and repairing it to the condition to be shown to prospective buyers/renters, there is the additional problem that the boxes and possessions piled in the hallway, furnace area, and room present safety hazards - they are fire hazards and they are making access to the humidifier a real feat of gymnastics; should we ever need to access your room for a trip to the emergency (much as you do not want this to happen, your health means it may), it is a certainty that paramedics would have difficulty getting past the debris; it is a health hazard as there is no way to access the floor to clean up, for example in the event of flooding or an ant infestation as we have had both in the past, plus there are crumbs from meals eaten in that room for years that have not been cleaned up.
I ask you - if you were owner of this house and were presented with this dilemma, what would you do?
Much as I want to avoid any conflict, we must set a new deadline, and there must be consequences, because I - and the children - cannot afford to be saddled with any last-minute repairs, unforeseen expenses, or other in the event of the ba
I suggest a final deadline of March 1 for the ba
I have taken photographs of the hallway, of the furnace room, and from the doorway to your room today. I hope the next set of photos are of a much improved nature.
Thank you for listening.
zsuzsilowinger 36-40, F 16 Responses 1 Feb 1, 2013