Who Is Breaking The Marriage Vows?To many of us I believe are tied to a false system of loyalties related to vows taken at the marriage ceremony, These vows including the abandoning all others are taken serious by most people but i think we often forget that basic algebra we learned way back in school - probably in seventh or eight grade. A+B = C But that also means that C- A = B and C - B = A etc. Well it seems to me that unspoken in our vows are equal principles too often ignored.
I will meet all your sexuall needs and as many of your sexual wants as I can = your abandoning all others for an exclusive relationship with me. We may only pledge faithfulness but when we do it is understood or damned well ought to be that unspoken is the requirement - NOT OPTION, but requirement that we meet the partners needs.
All through these sections are those including myself struggling with this idea of I am not having my needs met but I do not think I can break my vows. Well in my view your partner broke their wedding vows a LONG time ago - the minute they abandoned the idea of meeting your needs. There is NO legal agreement once it is broken by your partner. If they adondom meeting your needs, you are free from exclusivity. They cannot have it both ways.
You are forced to take actions you would rather not because of their actions or inaction as the case may be. It is not you breaking the vows. Oh sure they may never have actually cheated by having sex with someone else but their actions in refusing to meet their partner's needs are every bit as destructive and probably more so than a physical fling would have been
So in the end - you did not break and vows they did.
thomascan 46-50 6 Responses 0 Feb 2, 2013