I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Who Am I?

By: cvann5

Written on February 2nd, 2013

I just spent the day with my boys and had the best time I have had with them in years! I truly enjoyed their company and being there for them? I was their Dad today. I think I associated my identity with my own personal pain and neediness from my past that I got in my own way of enjoying my family.
Coud it be that I demanded that others make me feel better about myself that I did not appreciate them for who they were? Was I that self-absorbed that I could not appreciate the wonderful people around me for themselves ? Yes, my wife and I had a horrible sex life, but did I cause a lot of it by only focusing on MY needs and no one else's?
Maybe a window opened today for me... It might not help save my marriage, but it might help save me.

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By: cvann5

Age: 51-55 , Male

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Maleficent77

Every time I read something like this it inspires hope that me STBX can someday be the father his children need him to be. Thank you.

Feb 3
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- cvann5
  Anytime.
  
  Feb 3
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bazzar

Who Am I ??
A very vexed question I'll bet we all ask ourselves from time to time. I know I do.
Yet, if you are evolving, you are NOT the person you were 5, 10, 20 years ago. Nor will you be the exact same person as now in another "X" period of time. And that's good.
So, as your process of personal growth continues, your answer next time you ask that "Who Am I" question, you ought be getting a slightly different answer each time.
Present the authentic you of today to your kids. Pretty hard to go wrong adopting that tactic.
Tread your own path.

Feb 3
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homewrecker13

good for you, feels good to not just look inside but to see inside. Your boys are lucky. Take good care of them...

Feb 2
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