Wine And Sauna StoriesI had the most amazing weekend with 15 women in the North Woods. It was negative 35 degrees, but we are a hearty bunch, so we just dressed for it and still enjoyed snowshoeing, skiing and taking in the local charm. The lodge we stayed at had a huge community wood-burning, old fashioned real sauna. You don't get that kind of sweat from an electric version, it was awesome.
Anyway, we all had wine and conversations got quite interesting, Only two ladies in our group were still married. All the rest - divorced. Some were obviously "refuser-types" and others were "refused." I know that's naive to lump everyone in those two labels, but it kinda did play out like that. The "refuser-types" said things like, "He just up and left me for a younger woman after we were trying to work on our marriage" -- these ladies were still struggling, and don't have much good to say about men. I actually DID hear the comment, "If he had ever cleaned the house, I may have put out." Wow. The refused types said things like "I don't trade anything for sex, if I want it, I want it and if he wants it, I usually want it soon after anyway, so we do it." The lady who said that comment was in a 20 year sexless marriage. She is sixty now and having the time of her life - many boyfriends - she is a knock out. She inspired me. ;) She and I talked a lot, actually and I feel empowered after spending the weekend with her.
Anyway - I am not divulging all the sauna secrets -- but it just amazed me how the common theme for many marriages ending was SEX in our group. Either too much or not enough. Of course, the core of why we want sex or don't want it is the REAL issue, right? Personalities come into play. But -- clearly something is off if a couple isn't satisfied together sexually.
So it was a great weekend. I return "home" (eh.. still don't really have a home) feeling ready to press through with my life. Can't wait to plan the next event. Just wanted to share. Thanks. ;)
hee-hee.. I bet some of you were thinking you were going to get a different kind of story. Sorry to disappoint. ;)