10 Things You Must Give Up To Move Forward

If you want to fly and move on to better things, you have to give up the things that weigh you down – which is not always as obvious and easy as it sounds.

Starting today, give up…

1.Letting the opinions of others control your life. – People know your name, not your story. They’ve heard what you’ve done, but not what you’ve been through. So take their opinions of you with a grain of salt. In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. Sometimes you have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.

2.The shame of past failures. – You will fail sometimes, and that’s okay. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. Your past does not equal your future. Just because you failed yesterday; or all day today; or a moment ago; or for the last six months; or for the last sixteen years, doesn’t have any impact on the current moment. All that matters is what you do right now. Read Awaken the Giant Within.

3.Being indecisive about what you want. – You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be. It’s all about finding and pursuing your passion. Neglecting passion blocks creative flow. When you’re passionate, you’re energized. Likewise, when you lack passion, your energy is low and unproductive. Energy is everything when it comes to being successful. Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately.

4.Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you. – There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. Follow your intuition. Don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. When there is love and inspiration, you can’t go wrong. And whatever it is you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows. Trust me, in a year from now, you will wish you had started today.

5.Choosing to do nothing. – You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when. You can only decide how you are going to live, right now. Every day is a new chance to choose. Choose to change your perspective. Choose to flip the switch in your mind from negative to positive. Choose to turn on the light and stop fretting about with insecurity and doubt. Choose to do work that you are proud of. Choose to see the best in others, and to show your best to others. Choose to truly LIVE, right now.

6.Your need to be right. – If you keep on saying you’re right, even if you are right now, eventually you will be wrong. Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong. Because when you do, you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

7.Running from problems that should be fixed. – We make life harder than it has to be. The difficulties started when… conversations became texting, feelings became subliminal, sex became a game, the word ‘love’ fell out of context, trust faded as honesty waned, insecurities became a way of living, jealously became a habit, being hurt started to feel natural, and running away from it all became our solution. Stop running! Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and LOVE the people in your life who deserve it.

8.Making excuses rather than decisions. – Life is a continuous exercise in creative problem solving. A mistake doesn’t become a failure until you refuse to correct it. Thus, most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.

9.Overlooking the positive points in your life. – What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for. Do your best and surrender the rest. When you stay stuck in regret of the life you think you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have. You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now. Read The Happiness Project.

10.Not appreciating the present moment. – We do not remember days, we remember moments. Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things. Live authentically and cherish each precious moment of your journey. Because when you finally arrive at your desired destination, I guarantee you, another journey will begin.

oceansun oceansun
36-40, F
17 Responses Feb 5, 2013

OMG thank you for this.

Love the affirmation at the end. You ARE beautiful. Never lose sight of that. I've been reading your stories - good luck with everything.

And by the way, these aren't things you need to give up to move forward. These are things to give up in order to find happiness... you have the right attitude. Wish you the best.

Wow..this is a great reminder to move forward , be proactive. I am copying to reread in weak moments.

I can't believe I missed this when it was first posted. I'm printing this out and putting it in the notebook I carry with me. Good stuff, OS. Thank you!

I love this!

Just what the doctor ordered, especially the part about choosing to do nothing. Great stuff.

Needed to read that today... just as I was moving toward complacency...

This was great.


Very inspiring... I'll follow your advice right away. Thanks :)

Love it~ Very inspirational~ Need to share if i can~ Thanks!!!

I luv it, numbers 7 and 9 speak loudly to me today

Copied, printed, and stuck up on my bulletin board!

I love this! Thank you :)

its all so written in a way that as you continue reading it you feel liberated from stagnant thoughts that hold you back.thanks alot for sharing it.i would read it eve day .

This looks like a fleshed out version of the mvcmvc policy of adopting life enhancing things / people in your life, and getting rid of things / people who deplete your life.

Pretty good policy to follow, and your 10 points list cannot possibly hurt.

Rated up.

Tread your own path.

Beautiful - thanks.

Wow. Thank you.