I Live In a Sexless Marriage
I am 54 years young and have been with my husband for 21 years. I cannot remember the last time we had sex, it has been longer than 2 years.
My story is typical. Sex stopped after we moved in together, no sex on a honeymoon, me trying everything to get him interested, etc.
Finally, we had the TALK. Nothing happened. We had it again, nothing happened. Again - he went to the doctor, nothing really wrong with him.
Four or Five years ago we had another talk and I told him I was leaving. This resulted in going to a very good therapist who had good strategies which we sort of followed up on. However, unless I pushed it, we did not follow through with our homework assignments. No progress.
I have gotten to the point where I cannot watch a movie if there is a love or sex scene - it's just too painful.
I realize and I have told my husband that it is clear that he takes no accountability at all for trying to solve this problem. Frankly, it doesn't matter what the reason is, the solution requires attention and work and he just does not make that a priority.
So as painful as it is to give up on someone, I am done.
My story is typical. Sex stopped after we moved in together, no sex on a honeymoon, me trying everything to get him interested, etc.
Finally, we had the TALK. Nothing happened. We had it again, nothing happened. Again - he went to the doctor, nothing really wrong with him.
Four or Five years ago we had another talk and I told him I was leaving. This resulted in going to a very good therapist who had good strategies which we sort of followed up on. However, unless I pushed it, we did not follow through with our homework assignments. No progress.
I have gotten to the point where I cannot watch a movie if there is a love or sex scene - it's just too painful.
I realize and I have told my husband that it is clear that he takes no accountability at all for trying to solve this problem. Frankly, it doesn't matter what the reason is, the solution requires attention and work and he just does not make that a priority.
So as painful as it is to give up on someone, I am done.
By:
currion
Age:
51-55
,
Female
