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Freedom

I wanted to give an update on whats been going on.
This site has helped me in so many ways, I feel for other people going thru the
same agony and I wanted to say it never got better.
I was in my sexless marriage for 15 years. NO touch, no kiss no anything for 6 years. I was lost and lonely. I had an affair.
THe man I had an affair with died suddenly 5 months ago.
I learned alot from him, I couldnt deny I needed affection and love and couldnt stay in my marriage anymore. He helped awaken the part of me that was dead inside. I will always cherish the time we had.
About a month ago, I filed for divorce. I felt a burden lifted. I feel like i am in control of my life again and not going to be miserable anymore.
Its a bit scary and alot of people have chosen sides , including family, and I look like the bad guy. Thru it all , even though all the details arent worked out yet , i am happier and want to keep moving forward
Looking to my new future with enthusiasm and excited to see what life brings.
Diamonds10 Diamonds10 36-40 6 Responses Feb 6, 2013

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Being a happy "bad guy" ain't such a bad outcome. Way better than being a miserable "good guy".

Given a bit of time no one gives a **** who was "good" guy and who was "bad" guy.

Tread your own path.

My condolences for the loss of your lover. That must be very difficult for you as you two shared much.

Congratulations on your actions to get you to living a higher quality of life!

Hold your head high and act with integrity. Being the "bad guy" is only because they do not really know what happened in your marriage - or they too are refusers!! I'm so glad you have found your peace and you have my warmest wishes for a truly happy and wonderful "new" life!! {{{hugs}}}

Good for you, Diamonds! I was in a 16 year marriage that left me alone and unsure of everything, except knowing I had to leave.

Some of our mutual friends and family have taken side and sometimes it still makes me crazy. But take a look in the mirror and ask who is happier now.

Yes, its time to be happy , amen to that

Sorry for your loss. That is very sad. But he left behind a gift, and you've realized it and it has changed your life. I hope you find peace and that it all goes smoothly for you.

Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I'm hoping for great things for you going forward!