I wanted to give an update on whats been going on.
This site has helped me in so many ways, I feel for other people going thru the
same agony and I wanted to say it never got better.
I was in my sexless marriage for 15 years. NO touch, no kiss no anything for 6 years. I was lost and lonely. I had an affair.
THe man I had an affair with died suddenly 5 months ago.
I learned alot from him, I couldnt deny I needed affection and love and couldnt stay in my marriage anymore. He helped awaken the part of me that was dead inside. I will always cherish the time we had.
About a month ago, I filed for divorce. I felt a burden lifted. I feel like i am in control of my life again and not going to be miserable anymore.
Its a bit scary and alot of people have chosen sides , including family, and I look like the bad guy. Thru it all , even though all the details arent worked out yet , i am happier and want to keep moving forward
Looking to my new future with enthusiasm and excited to see what life brings.
Diamonds10 Diamonds10
4 Responses Feb 6, 2013

Being a happy "bad guy" ain't such a bad outcome. Way better than being a miserable "good guy".

Given a bit of time no one gives a **** who was "good" guy and who was "bad" guy.

Tread your own path.

<p>Hold your head high and act with integrity. Being the "bad guy" is only because they do not really know what happened in your marriage - or they too are refusers!! I'm so glad you have found your peace and you have my warmest wishes for a truly happy and wonderful "new" life!! {{{hugs}}}</p>

Good for you, Diamonds! I was in a 16 year marriage that left me alone and unsure of everything, except knowing I had to leave.

Some of our mutual friends and family have taken side and sometimes it still makes me crazy. But take a look in the mirror and ask who is happier now.

Yes, its time to be happy , amen to that

Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I'm hoping for great things for you going forward!