Freedom?

Our family had to go to Kissimmee last weekend because my daughter had state cheer competitions. We packed Wednesday night so we could get up Thursday morning take showers & leave.

I noticed that my husband awaken earlier than I thought he would have & started stirring around the house making a lot of noise. I finally got up & I heard him talking to the girls. So I got into the shower.

When I was finished, I put lotion on, & then walked into the kitchen. I thought something seemed really strange .... It was super quiet .....

I walked into my daughters rooms & asked if they knew were their dad had gone. They said oh he left for Orlando ... I'm like really?!?!? Ok....

Then the girls & I finding packing my vehicle & we take off. We do not hear from him all day long. Finally around 5 his texts one of my daughters asking what time the competition is... She responded & then he texted back saying that he was going to stay with his parents this weekend & that he didn't want to be with me .... He didn't want to fight ... OK. I thought!

Needless to say it was his bday on Friday & we all met to have dinner ... He tried his hardest to fight with me ... But what he didn't realize was that I had already had 4 red solo cups filled to the rim with orange juice & Malibu coconut rum!!!! I was feeling no pain!!! lol!!!

He continued until finally I asked him for a divorce once again....but this time in front of his whole family ....... He said a few choice words. & his Mother & Father assured him that he would be fine because they would help him!!! I didn't care what I said... After all, I had liquid courage in me lol!!!! I said well since he would sign the papers 3 years ago... Make sure he signs them now!!!

The next day he shows up at my parents house & proceeds to tell them how much he has tried to make it work but I refuse to stay. (It's funny how he was trying to play the victim). I then proceed to say a few choice words & told him to get the f out!!

But before he left he FINALLY agreed that he would sign the divorce papers!!!! I went out saturday night to celebrate!!!! lots of dancing & grindig going in ;)!!!!

Thank goodness!!!! Freedom is on the horizon!!!! ❤

southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126
36-40, F
2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

It must be quite a relief to have this out in the open and moving forward after the adventures you've been through over the past months.

Tread your own path.

Yes... It is... But I will believe it when he finally signs the papers & gets out ;)

Freedom is certainly the goal...so sorry your family is having to go through all the drama. How do your girls feel about the divorce? I assume it is not a secret based on your story.

Why did your in laws feel the need to assure your STBX they would help him. Is he not stable? Whatever, sounds like this is a long time coming. You seem to be a beautiful person with a lot of personality and thirst for a vibrant life. I know you will embrace the next page in life with enthusiasm. I enjoy hearing about your many adventures and look forward to more to come.

The girls are upset, but eventually in time i believe they will realize that this was the best move for all if us. This is nowhere a healthy marriage. My main concern is the fact that they do not grow up & think that its ok for a man to treat a lady like this. I want them to be strong & walk away if they ever need too.

His parents have always spoiled him rotten.... Whenever he needs anything he calls them & they're always there to help out.

That has always been a problem for me.... I learned from a very young age you stand on your own 2 feet. Don't ever allow others to bail you out or it will become a habit.

He thinks because sometimes we do not have a certain amount of $ in the bank that we are broke so he calls them & they send him $. I hate that!!! I have told him over & over that we will just work harder. But he doesn't believe in hard work. Again because he has always been handed things.