I Live In a Sexless Marriage
so i filed the complaint for divorce 2 weeks ago this coming monday. spoke with the paralegal at my atty's office today & the docs aren't back from the court yet.
when i told him i had filed he said lots of things about how he was sorry..."but." and then followed it up with asking me to please reconsider, etc. i told him the papers had already been files but still he asked me to think about it.
now. during the conversation, not once did he look genuinely pained or emotional. he did look bothered-as in omg what am I going to do if I lose all that income, the maid, the child care, the social engineer, etc.?
when sandy happened and we lost some beautiful old trees he cried. and he was depressed for days.
comparing his reaction to the loss of those trees and the loss of his wife?
life has gone on as usual. you'd think we'd never had that talk. except he's asked me twice to "find a counselor honey so we can go together." nuh uh not falling in that time suck trap.
it strikes me he told me that i am "it" for him. then you'd think he'd be doing *some*thing to "keep" me. nope. nada.
and the attitude (negative, sarcastic, snarky & putting me down a lot) is definitely toxic for my daughter.
so i will be selling what i have available to raise cash (some old, good, jewelry that has no sentimental value and using the cash as down payment on a new place to live. i hope to be in a new place with my daughter within the next couple months.
does anyone else's refuser spouse show zero emotion and even less emlpath!
when i told him i had filed he said lots of things about how he was sorry..."but." and then followed it up with asking me to please reconsider, etc. i told him the papers had already been files but still he asked me to think about it.
now. during the conversation, not once did he look genuinely pained or emotional. he did look bothered-as in omg what am I going to do if I lose all that income, the maid, the child care, the social engineer, etc.?
when sandy happened and we lost some beautiful old trees he cried. and he was depressed for days.
comparing his reaction to the loss of those trees and the loss of his wife?
life has gone on as usual. you'd think we'd never had that talk. except he's asked me twice to "find a counselor honey so we can go together." nuh uh not falling in that time suck trap.
it strikes me he told me that i am "it" for him. then you'd think he'd be doing *some*thing to "keep" me. nope. nada.
and the attitude (negative, sarcastic, snarky & putting me down a lot) is definitely toxic for my daughter.
so i will be selling what i have available to raise cash (some old, good, jewelry that has no sentimental value and using the cash as down payment on a new place to live. i hope to be in a new place with my daughter within the next couple months.
does anyone else's refuser spouse show zero emotion and even less emlpath!
By:
smithy8015
Age:
46-50
,
Female
