I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Really?! What Does This Mean?

By: NeednGrace

Written on February 9th, 2013

I'm soo tired of feeling unwanted by this man. It always says he loves me but it NEVER feels like it to me. The other night, after weeks of not having any sex, I was trying to cuddle with him on the bed as he was watching TV. I asked, "Baby, when can I get some of that?" Placing my hand gently on his private area. (Blush) His reply was, "When you stop asking for it!" Honestly, I think I hate him.

By: NeednGrace

Age: 46-50 , Female

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13 responses

1goodguy65

I know how you feel, why should we have to beg for affection!

Feb 26
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cheetah911

I think rqreener hit it on the head!!! time for you to outsource!!! best of luck

Feb 26
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rgreener

Time to go get some much needed Sex elsewhere. Have Fun Girl

Feb 26
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OutOfPatience

If you have to ask for it, it is not worth getting. Your husband has no sexual desire for you. As long as this is the case, you can beg and plead but it will not make any difference. You asking your husband to participate in something that requires a emotional commitment and a emotional investment on his part. If he does not have those, any act of intimacy will be meaningless.
How i wish my wife would say to me Baby, when can I get some of that. It will never happen. He is implying if you ask for less of it you will get more. Other people on this board have been told the same thing. They quit asking and guess what. The frequency of sex did not change at all.
There are no easy answers to this.

Feb 10
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gypsyblu

yea i stoped asking for it this time last year, jan 2012 we now seem to get along better, but that doesnt mean im happier. it means he is happier,

Feb 10
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GibbySan

I "stopped asking for it" seven months ago. One guess how long it has been?

Feb 9
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genguy

" I think I hate him"..... Do you have to be hit in the HEAD???
YOU asked a question ....and HE answered you!!
You're just NOT LISTENING!!!
Here are some "other" answers he could have given you:
When PIGS FLY!
When bears STOP pooping in the woods!
When HELL freezes over!
When the ocean dries up!
Do you GET IT now???
You HATE him??? Hmmmmm....Sounds to ME like he just MIGHT hate YOU!!

Feb 9
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bazzar

"Really ?! What Does This Mean ?"
I think you know exactly what it means Sister NnG.
Trouble is though, that if you acknowledge that you know, then it falls on you to do something about it.
It is oftentimes easier to pretend that you "don't know"
Tread your own path.

Feb 9
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zsuzsilowinger

I got told something similar. So I stopped asking for "that".
Fast forward four years when he has yet to initiate anything and we are separated.

Feb 9
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mvcmvc

"When you stop asking for it!"
Sounds to me like an exercise in power.

Feb 9
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- MissLee
  Yeah. It makes me think of a parent-child relationship. *blorf* What a major turn-off.
  
  Feb 9
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MissLee

Just for ***** and grins, stop asking for it and see how long it takes for him to notice.

Feb 9
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- gypsyblu
  mine never notice. its been a year since i screamed, yelled at him forsex questioning him.
  but gusse what....... he had a heart/attack xmas 2012 so now he has a real reason not to have sex.
  
  Feb 10
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