What'S Your Theoretical Dealbreaker ?Below is listed 'my' version of potential dealbreakers, in 'my' version of severest to least severe.
1 - Physical Violence
2 - Threat of Physical Violence
3 - Financial Abuse / Irresponsibility
4 - Substance abuse / Addiction
5 - Verbal abuse
6 - Cheating
7 - Emotional Withdrawal
"Lack of sex" doesn't make my list, because if any of these other 7 dealbreakers are present, it is a given that there will be sexual dysfunctionality as a symptom of the underlying dealbreaker.
There is a school of thought in ILIASM that sexual withdrawal is enough all by itself to constitute a dealbreaker - and whereas I agree with that as a theory, I'm not convinced that the scenario painted where "everything is great bar the sex" is ever a true statement. Inevitably, there is a deeper driver than 'just the sex'.
I'd be interested to see what you guys reckon. I'd imagine YOUR list of dealbreakers might look quite different and / or be ranked in severity differently.
For my own part, I reckon if you have the "intimacy averse" situation, then you have a dealbreaker there and then. After that, you have the driver / cause of the behaviour (known or unknown) as the cherry on top.
Tread your own path.
bazzar 56-60, M 20 Responses 12 Feb 10, 2013