******* Update To Asexual Wife'S Response To Initiation ******This is an update to my previous story on my wife's response to my attempts at intimacy last week.
Over the weekend, my wife and my daughter ( 13 years old ) slept together both Saturday night and Sunday night as I of course slept in the guest room.....
This has been an issue in the past that we discussed both between us personally, and also at therapy in front of a counselor.
I brought it up at therapy,,,knowing that it is most certainly not a healthy habit to get into,,,and the counselor emphatically agreed with me,,,and said there should be no reason that our daughter should be still sleeping with her mother,,,no matter what the reason.
I have shared with my wife long ago that it is one thing to not to want to sleep with me or be close to me,,,,,,BUT, it is quite another to advertise it to the kids by sleeping with them. When she does this, it is a direct assault to my "standing" with my children, with them seeing a dad that is being treated like an option, rather than a priority.
Secondly, I have major concerns for the phsycological effects of a young woman sleeping with her mother , and how this does nothing to avert my daughter from having the same exact issues in her future relationships as my wife is having with me.
I did not say anything Sunday morning,,,with wanting a peaceful Sunday morning...but....
But, wHen I walked into my bedroom last night to get ready for bed in the guest room and saw them both asleep in our bed,,,,,,yet again,,,,,I tapped my wife on the shoulder ,,,woke her up,,,and asked why Sarah was sleeping in our bed. She ,,,being annoyed,,,,said we will talk about it in the morning,,and rolled over. I was upset ,,,and as I grabbed a pillow for the guest room,,,,i grabbed a second one and threw it on her,,,letting her know the degree of disapproval i had over the situation. That may have not been nice,,,,,,,but what she is doing is even less nice.
With that being said, I suppose my wife is employing my daughter in bed with her to avoid a repeat of the events last week where she had to endure that horrible travesty of having her husband approach her for intimacy.
Was I mean throwing a pillow at her?
Are my concerns for my daughter legitimate ?
All comments welcomed.
PardonTheInterruption 46-50, M 23 Responses 3 Feb 11, 2013