What'S Your Real Risk Factor ?If you are considering divorce, however idly, at this time - and presuppossing your ILIASM marriage is a typical dysfunctional deal, then you need information.
Hard logistical informetion needs to come from a lawyer in your jurisdiction. Not the ILIASM membership.
What follows attempts to establish the risk of you making some sort of horrendous life depleting decision if you choose the "get out" path.
The thing here is that YOU don't know how your life might go after you took the leap of faith out of your ILIASM deal, and I don't know either. No-one knows, with any accuracy, exactly how anyones circumstances will end up after the leap of faith.
So, what information do we have to make some assumptions about how a leap of faith, out, might go ?
Well, there is a rich source of stories in here (not indexed unfortunately) from people who have taken the leap. Their outcomes range from those now happily single, to those happily playing the field, to those happy in new relationships. These stories are the "good" side.
For balance, we need to establish members who took the leap, and landed flat on their arse in a position just as bad or worse. My problem here, is that despite being a pretty active member here for four years+, I have never seen such a story. Never. (have any of you ? - please direct me to it if you have)
Now, it would be ridiculous to say that the leap of faith carried no potential downside. Surely there must be some cases where the choice to leave the ILIASM resulted in a downside. A position as bad or worse than the ILIASM. Surely ?? But WHERE IS THE EVIDENCE ?????
On the balance of probability, and ba
Your real risk factor of finding yourself in a circumstance as bad, or worse appears to be quite low. Indeed, on the available evidence, extra-ordinarily low.
Tread your own path.